Basic Lube Info
First of all, stay away from any oil-based lubes. Yeah, yeah, I know, it's all "natural" and "from the earth" and all that jazz, but oil isn't good for women’s bodies. Or condoms, gloves or toys made of latex.
Second, avoid any lube or lubricated condom with nonoxynol-9 (spermicide) in it--it DRASTICALLY increases your chances of contracting HIV if you have sex with an infected partner. It's because nonoxynol-9 is corrosive. That's what makes it a good sperm killer, and why so many women feel itchy and rashy after using it. It tastes like ass pickled in vinegar, anyway. So don't bother.
Third, if you're prone to yeast or bladder infections, try to avoid lubes containing glycerin. It seems to promote the growth of yeast & bacteria in women who have problems with chronic infection. Ok, on to the good stuff!
The Best Lubes for Oral Sex
Many people going down don't like to use lube; they don't want anything to compete with getting female juices up to their ears and eyeballs. (Understandable.) But, if you suffer from dry mouth, or if the receiving partner has exceptionally delicate skin (this can be especially true for women after chemo or radiation treatments), adding a little lubricant can make things much more comfortable.
Unfortunately, some of the best sex lubes have a terrible aftertaste. And, many flavored lubes are full of sugar and glycerin, making them incompatible with vaginas. What to do? I suggest one of two options: 1)Sliquid Swirl is a tasty, water-based, sugar-free, glycerin-free, paraben-free, vegan line of lubes available in 4 flavors. 2)Any high quality, medical grade silicone lube (such as Swiss Navy, Pink, Eros, or Pjur) will do. They are completely taste-free, and you'll only need a tiny smidge. (Both those options work for fellatio, as well.)
*Special note to overzealous partners about silicone: You only need a teeny tiny bit. Don't go nuts. It's very effective in small amounts. Like a few drops. No, really. I appreciate your enthusiasm. But if you go chugging half a bottle of silicone, it's going to have a laxative effect. Silicone makes things move, you see. (Psst...that's also one of the reasons we know it doesn't get "absorbed" by your tissues. It goes right through and out the other side. Doctors have been giving silicone for profound constipation for years.)
The Best Lube for Use with Dildos
First, ask yourself two questions: 1) what's my dildo made of, and 2) Am I willing to use a condom on it? Your answers will dictate what lube you CAN use.
Silicone is definitely the superior material for dildos. It's inert, hypoallergenic, non-porous, and sterilizable. Just one thing: you can't use silicone lube directly on a silicone dildo. Which is too bad...silicone lubes stay slippery FOREVER, and you only need to use a little tiny bit. But if you put a condom on your silicone dildo, you CAN use silicone lube. AHA! (You also get to be lazy when it comes to cleanup.) If you don't want to use condoms, you can use any water based lube.
If your toy is made of latex or some other soft plastic, use a water based lube. They're easiest to wash off. I really do recommend you use condoms on these toys, as they tend to be porous and can harbor bacteria, and they often sweat toxic chemical softeners as they age.
Our best selling water-based lubes are Liquid Silk (very long lasting, and it's creamy appearance make it good for gender play) and Sliquid H2O (virtually chemical free and vegan).
Best Lube for Anal Sex
The best lubes are THICK, gel-like water based lubes, like Maximus, Slippery Stuff Gel, or Astroglide Gel Formula. Thicker lubes provide more bulk and cushion, which help protect your delicate rectal tissues. They also stay where you put them...which is nice, considering that you have to use lots & lots of lube for anal play. NEVER, NEVER use any kind of numbing creams or lubes for anal sex (the ingredients list would say "benzocaine" or "lidocaine"). Anal play done PROPERLY to a healthy butt never hurts. Really. I mean it.
Best Lube for Hand Jobs
Yay, genital massage! I like silicone for this. It's long lasting, and if it turns into a full body massage, silicone lube makes a good massage medium...or if you want to finish off with your mouth, the taste won't kill you. However...if you're having a quickie in the car or the bathroom, silicone can stain fabrics, so if you want to leave with no evidence, water-based lube might be better. I've also noticed that a good double-palmful of a thick water-based lube like Maximus or Slippery Stuff Gel makes VERY satisfying squelchy noises if you're going for over-the-top porno effect. I guess it depends on what you're after.
Best Lube for Vibrators
Like with dildos, you have to know what your vibe is made of, and if you'll use a condom on it. Though with vibrators, many are made of hard plastic, which is compatible with all lubes in addition to being easy to clean. Only some vibes get inserted into the body--but if you find that putting a little lube on your toy enhances the sensation you get from it, even with external use, go for it!
Things to remember about lube:
Everybody needs it once in awhile
What works for you may not work for your lover. That's why there's so many! Experiment.
Always read the bottle; check for ingredients that are known allergens/irritants to you
Buy small bottles until you find something that works great
Keep experimenting! Try testers & pillow packs. New product comes out all the time!
Keep bottles tightly closed, and buy a new one after a year or two if you haven't used it up.
A personal lubricant is a substance used to reduce friction during sexual activities and occasionally during other activities involving the sexual organs. During intercourse, a personal lubricant can assist in ease of penetration and reduce risk of injury due to friction.
When a lubricant is used for other sexual activities, such as manual stimulation of the genitalia, it usually serves to reduce friction from rubbing. Lubricants may also have stimulating qualities and promote arousal by design. The most common non-sexual usage of personal lubricants is during medical examinations of the genitals or anus in order to ease discomfort from friction, although there are a variety of other non-standard uses of personal lubricants.
Human beings produce natural lubrication when sexually aroused, and this is the substance the most basic personal lubricants are designed to replace. Individuals may not produce sufficient lubrication in the right places to comfortably participate in certain activities, and so an artificial personal lubricant may be used. There are, additionally, lubricants that are intended to improve on the functions of natural lubricants. For instance, some companies claim that a warming personal lubricant improves sexual satisfaction, while others assert that flavored lubricants improve oral sex for one or both partners. Many lubricants are designed for use during specific activities, and these products typically expound their particular virtues and benefits on the label.
A personal lubricant may be made from a variety of materials, but the most common types are water-based and silicone-based formulas. Oil-based personal lubricants also exist, and many oil-based substances were once used as unofficial lubricants. Knowing which ingredients are in the lubricant being used is very important because some ingredients can interact with common materials such as silicone or latex.
Water-based lubricants are very safe and effective but have a number of disadvantages. They can exacerbate yeast infections, they tend to dry out, and they may leave the skin feeling sticky after use. Silicone-based lubricants, on the other hand, are not absorbed into the skin and so do not dry out. Unfortunately, this type of lubricant can damage silicone objects, and so only water-based lubricants should be used with silicone. Beyond these restrictions, which formula constituted the best personal lubricant is largely a matter of personal preference.
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Beyond the intended uses of personal lubricants, many people find that these products can be used in other projects that require lubrication. For instance, using a personal lubricant can help remove rings stuck on fingers, or ease other trapped body parts out of tight spaces. Games have also evolved involving personal lubricants, such lube wrestling. Personal lubricants may be good to have around the house for practical uses and emergencies, although other substances could also perform these functions in a pinch.